Need Help with Funeral Costs

Link to donate: Ko-fi

Right now I’m going through a hard time, we (Ducky and I) recently moved down south in February because of family issues that forced us to move. We ended up getting put up by two awesome friends that we don’t want to name, and we couldn’t be more grateful for their help.

A few months before that in mid October my mom had a mini heart attack and stroke right in front of me, I was so shook by what happened and still haven’t got over it even months later. She ended up in hospital where she did recover a little bit but not fully, I was there till 3am that first night and had Ducky come give me support. She was eventually released but had another stroke while I was away from home, she was always looking on the bright side of things and wanted me to get on with life, and she was in the care of people I trusted. I found out when I went to the hospital that it was a stroke and a heart attack and that she was doing even worse, I was crying while talking with her, not knowing at the time just how long she would have left. She had changed so much, she wasn’t her usual self where she would be dismissive about things but have a happy outlook on life, she wasn’t able to move around at all, stuck in bed with only the help of some nurses that attempted to get her out of bed every day or even sit up just to get her moving again, but she struggled so much because of the stroke.

I visited her off and on throughout the next couple of months, struggling more and more to see the person that brought me up in life to what I am now to be stuck in bed, unable to do anything, even stay awake long enough to talk. Before Ducky and I moved down south we both visited my mom and talked about the move, she was so happy to hear about it but I knew at the same time she didn’t want me to leave, but she knew I had to get on with life. I did visit one last time with Ducky to see her asleep in bed smiling, I didn’t go in and wake her up because I wanted to remember that last moment of her like that, not struggling, not unhappy or tired, just peacefully asleep smiling.

I was talking with my aunt/my moms sister who knew all about what happened, I wasn’t easily able to get back up north to see my mom as I was struggling to get a job and couldn’t get Ducky to drive me as he has a job. We would talk on the phone every so often or text late at night with updates on what is happening, like her getting moved into a care home with 24/7 carer there for her.

A few weeks ago I had bad news. My aunt called me and we talked, she eventually told me that because my mom isn’t getting any better and is still struggling with eating that she only had 6 months at best to live. I was home alone and broke down crying, I was unable to talk to my aunt because of it. When I did eventually regain compose she reminded me that she is still alive now and that’s all that matters.

I’m writing all of this because I need help, my aunt is planning a funeral for my mom that is pretty basic, she is able to pay some costs towards it but I still need to pay £3071 soon as I don’t think my mom has 6 months left. This is to cover the burial, coffin, flowers, and the service overall. It would make me less stressed about this if I hit the goal and able to not panic all the time with no idea what to do. It has taken me a few days to even ask for help from anyone as I usually don’t like doing it.

If you can help out it doesn’t have to be a lot, anything is helpful right now. It would be nice to wake up one day to see the goal met or more, anything over the goal would go towards the funeral costs as well as donated to the nurses that are looking after my mom right now. You can use my Ko-fi to donate, there is a goal set up on there too.

Thank you for taking time to read this, I cried a couple of times while writing it up as I realised I’d never get to talk to my mom again about life